ichorcomic answered: I would happily trade werewolf pictures.
Yes! I would love to! What kind of prompt have you got in mind for me? I’m not fab with anatomy but that’s why I’m doing this after all, so hopefully I will get it right after some practice. :)
The master has failed more times than the beginner has even tried.
puhshpuhsh said: PLUS if she’s only there because of your kindness, well your house, your rules, she’s gotta deal.
No like absolutely, it’s not even rational that I should be afraid to confront her, it’s residual past trauma stuff. She has absolutely no right to do what she wants in my house, especially if I am unwillingly babysitting her. And my kindness is actually kind of not allowed in our contract, so she extra has to put up with my requests.
Still gonna report it though, I don’t want her running around with the keys to this flat. And I don’t want to get in trouble/ be fined for something I didn’t even agree to. She can stay until Wednesday, but she hasn’t done much to endear herself to me after that!
em1vee1 said: I would feel the same way XP It’s not you AT ALL. It’s your rude fucking roommate and her rude-ass friend. She didn’t even talk to you about it right? Maybe write down what you want to say first? So you can say what you need to calmly and coherently?
Ooooh my god holy shit I was assertive it was scary
Okay I just went out there and cornered her and told her to not touch the heating, no friends allowed, and to clean up after herself. And I didn’t like apologize on her behalf or anything, I didn’t give her an option, I just laid down the law. THAT IS SUCH A BIG DEAL FOR ME JESUS.
STILL SHAKING BUT I DID IT I WAS AN ASSERTIVE ADULT
em1vee1 said: Tell her that if she wants to stay until wednesday then she has to respect the apartment! She needs to adhere to rules, keep her things organized, and not mess with utilities otherwise she needs to leave! That whole situation is just so unacceptable!
You’re right, that’s just what I should say. I’m going to try. I am just so pathetic at standing up for myself. It took like ALL of my nerve to say no about her friend coming over, and I was literally shaking. This is so absurd because this is literally like one of my biggest triggers, and life forces me to confront it like, CONSTANTLY.
UGHHH I AM STILL SHAKING I HATE THIS SO MUCH.
I mean at least I recognise that it is unacceptable, which is progress from the way I was at the beginning of the year, but I need to go a step further I think. I just can’t even FATHOM how anyone would think it is okay to behave this way when they are a guest!
Okay but like I need some support you guys because I am really edging on panic right now and I don’t know what to do
I just got home from a 3 hour library stint to find my kitchen full of cooking supplies. My housemate’s weird guest shows up and asks me WHEN I WILL BE DONE AND OUT OF THE KITCHEN because she is inviting over a friend for dinner. This is the last straw. I told her that was absolutely not okay, and that I didn’t know either her or her friend, and that she’d have to make other arrangements. She grudgingly called him and said something in Chinese which I hope was her cancelling. I also found out she has been messing with the heating.
Guys I don’t know what to do. I was out and she was inviting someone over while I was gone — someone who may or may not be a student, and who may or may not be trustworthy. This is such a breach of my privacy and my allowing her to stay, and I am just really stressed to leave now because I have NO idea what she will do in my absence.
This is my own fault for not being firmer in the beginning and telling her she couldn’t stay, but I felt bad because she was moved out of her own apartment and needed a place to crash. But the fact of the matter is that I don’t know her or trust her and now I am spiralling into full on anxiety in my own house.
I have NO idea how to handle this other than what I am already doing, but I do know I am now VERY uncomfortable with her staying.